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Morning Crossfire with Tolu @tolulopeab and Onome @onome_tsb. #RiseToWisdom

Do you fly off the handle for “no reason”? Have you been accused of being “hot-headed”? When the emotional intensity and severity of your behavior doesn’t match the situation at hand, you are overreacting. So what can we do about this?

7 Powerful Mantras to Stop You from Overreacting and Arguing with People by Marc Chernoff
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1.    Inner peace and harmony begins the moment you take a deep breath and choose not to allow another person or event to control your thoughts and emotions.

2.    Don’t let the silly little dramas of each day get the best of you.  Be selective in your battles.  Oftentimes peace is better than being right.  You simply don’t need to attend every argument you are invited to.

3.    Most people make themselves unhappy simply by finding it impossible to accept life just as it is presenting itself right now.  Breathe.  Sometimes you just need to slow down, stay calm, and let things happen as they were supposed to happen – no commentary needed.

4.   Inhale.  Exhale.  A moment of silence in a moment of anger, can save you from a hundred moments of regret.  Truth be told, you are often most powerful and influential in an argument when you are most silent.  Others never expect silence.  They expect yelling, drama, defensiveness, offensiveness, and lots of back and forth.  They expect to leap into the ring and fight.  They are ready to defend themselves with sly remarks cocked and loaded.  But your mindful silence?  That can really disarm them.

5.    Even when your frustration is justified, and something needs to be said, don’t be hateful – keep your heart and mind wide open.  Peace is not the absence of trouble, but the presence of love.  Be mindful, and communicate accordingly.

6.    It’s much easier to overreact and judge people than it is to understand them.  Understanding takes extra kindness and patience.  And this “extra” is what love is all about.  Love is living your life… but sharing it – it’s forgiveness, patience, optimism, and sometimes it’s a hug or a smile when there’s nothing left to say.

7.    Keep doing your best not to overthink life’s little frustrations and disagreements.  Answers come to a relaxed mind.  Space allows things to fall into place.  A good attitude yields the best results in the end.

Can you think of a time when you were saved from overreacting and responding to someone inappropriately? Let's talk ...