Habits in marrage

*TEN (10) GOLDEN SECRETS OF MARRIAGE:*
*TO THOSE WHO ARE MARRIED AND/OR ARE PREPARING TO GET MARRIED SOON*

1. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS*

Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorns. If you focus too much on your spouse's weakness, you can't get the best out of his/her strength.

2. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY*

No one is an Angel, therefore, avoid digging one's past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. Try to forgive and forget. The past can't be changed. So focus on the present and the future!

3. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT'S OWN CHALLENGES*

Marriage is not bed of roses. Every shinning marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage! Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of needs. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day!

4. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS*

Don't compare your marriage with anyone else's! We can never be equal, some will be far in front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true.

5. *TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR*

When you marry, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are: Ignorance, Prayerlessness, Unforgivingness, Adultery, Third Party Influence, Stinginess, Stubbornness, Lack Of Love, Rudeness, bitterness, Laziness, Divorce etc. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

6. *THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE*

There is no ready made- marriage anywhere. Marriage is hard work, volunteer yourself and perfect it daily. Marriage is like a CAR with Gear oil, gear box, back axles,  etc and If these parts are not properly maintained, the car will break down somewhere along the road and exposing the occupants to unhealthy circumstances. - Many of us are careless about our marriages ... Are you? If you are, please pay attention to your marriage.

7. *GOD DOES NOT GIVE YOU THE COMPLETE PERSON YOU DESIRE*

He (God) gives you, him or her in the form of raw materials in order for you to mold into what you desire. You may desire a man/woman who can pray for 1 hour but your husband/ wife can only pray for 30 minutes. With your love, prayer and encouragement, she can improve and vice versa.

8. *TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK*

You cannot predict what will happen after marriage, as situations may change, so, leave a room for adjustment. Pregnancy may not come in the next 4 years. You may get married to her because she's slim but she becomes 100% fatter after a child. He may lose his beautiful job for years that you have to take the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. But with God by your side, you will smile at last.

9. *MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT, IT IS PERMANENT*

Marriage needs total commitment, love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind. Never think of divorce! Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married! God hates divorce

10. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TO PAY*

Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage, You cannot love without giving and sacrificing.

Legacy

HUSTLE FOR LEGACY NOT TOYS!

Anytime I travel down to the village, I usually pay attention to things some of us may not consider. I usually move around to see the mansions that were built when we were growing up, and the cars that was reigning then. Doing this has helped me to understand life better. One of the houses I saw recently was completely dilapidated. I saw another one that I cannot even look at if you give it to me for free. Guess what? I saw the Range Rover that was reigning then, and I couldn’t believe what I saw.

Today’s treatise is not designed to show you how useless material things are. I want a good car, nice house, good clothes and other stuff, but most importantly, I want to leave a good legacy for the next generation! Few days ago, I watched Kenneth Hagin’s 80th birthday that was organized by his son and others in 1997. What moved me was not really the event, but the generals he successfully raised before died. Anyone that teaches faith today is directly or indirectly connected to Kenneth Hagin.

God’s servants like Kenneth and Gloria Copeland, John and Dodie Osteen (parents of Joel Osteen) and many other ministers around the world testified how God used Kenneth Hagin to change their lives. While watching that event I said to myself, although this man is dead, but he is still alive.

Kenneth Hagin is still living through the voices of David Oyedepo, Bill Winston, Kenneth Copeland, Poju Oyemade, and many other global voices. He started the Word of Faith Movement which was originally introduced by E. W Kenyon, and raised thousands of followers who are transferring the same movement to the next generation! That’s is the true meaning of legacy.

It is estimated that about 360,000 children are born daily, and 151,600 people die daily worldwide. So there are 15,000 births each hour, and 6,316 deaths each hour. One day you will be one of them. What values are you leaving behind for the next generation? God did not create you to just struggle for what to eat and what to wear, you are here for a specific assignment, and until you discover and maximize it, life will remain a burden.

Living for self is the pathway to the land of nobodies! Champions are not interested in just meeting their needs but on how to meet the needs of others. By meeting the needs of others, their own needs are met, and they usually immotalize their names in the process. There are people who are alive but we cannot remember them; but there are those who died over 200 years ago but we can’t forget them.

Jesus lived a very short life, but His impact is still speaking till tomorrow. Before He left, He set up a team of twelve people who would understudy Him. He taught these twelve men for three-and-half-years, died, rose back to life, appeared to those men for final instruction, and went straight to heaven. These men took what Jesus taught them to the ends of the earth. Today, there are over three billion Christians on earth. The result of the legacy Jesus left behind.

Don’t just appear and disappear from the world scene. Touch lives, transform your generation and make the world a better place. Sir Isaac Newton gave us the law of gravity, calculus, law of motion and many other inventions. Alexander Flaming gave us penicilin. Sir James Simpson gave us the chloroform which is used to induce patients to sleep during surgery.

R. G Letourneau gave us the earth moving machine, and Orville and Wilbur Wright, the two sons of a bishop gave us the airplane! What are you giving to the world before you die? It is your impact while alive that writes your name in the hearts of men forever.

Improve your self

3 Ways Self-Improvement Can Change Your Life

Focusing on self-improvement has presented many opportunities in our lives—like speaking at live events, writing for online publications and traveling the world.

This can happen for you, too.

But in order for things to change in your life, in order to get where you want to be, you have to grow into the person who is ready for that change. Personal development is vital to your success.

Here are three specific ways focusing on self-improvement can change your life:

1. It presents you with new opportunities.
Growth in yourself eventually leads you to new opportunities, opportunities that don’t come about until you grow into the person who is ready for them. All you have to do is focus on self-improvement—start by reading personal development articles, books, blogs—and implement the things you learn into your own life.

2. It increases your self-esteem to new levels.
Self-confidence is ultimately the starting point to following your dreams—you have to believe in yourself and your dreams enough to go after them. As you grow, you’re building up that mindset, that belief.

When I picked up my very first personal development book—Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill—that’s when my self-esteem started rising, when I really started to believe in myself and my goals. Reading success books was what pushed me to grow, to change, the motivation behind my goals.

3. It can help you become a better version of yourself.
Becoming a better version of yourself is the main goal of self-improvement—to improve in your job, your business, your relationships. Whatever area of your life you’re working on, that’s part of growing as a person. You have to constantly look at what you can improve and have the awareness to know what needs to be done to do it.

The most effective way of finding out how to get better is to ask the people around you to make a list of what you’re best at and where you could make improvements. Take the list of improvements and work on them one by one.

What areas of self-improvement are you working on, and how has it changed your life?