Monday 28 August 2017

Monday 14 August 2017

FIRST IMPRESSION

         FIRST IMPRESSION

Let's talk about first impressions today.

In psychology, a first impression is the event when one person first encounters another person and forms a mental image of that person. Impression accuracy varies depending on the observer and the target (person, object, scene, etc.) being observed. First impressions are based on a wide range of characteristics: age, race, culture, language, gender, physical appearance, accent, posture, voice, number of people present, and time allowed to process. The first impressions individuals give to others could greatly influence how they are treated and viewed in many contexts of everyday life.

Here are some quick tips on making a good first impression:

Let’s say you’ve just walked into a big network event. The room buzzes with prospective clients and high-level leaders. You want to introduce yourself… but how?

1) Find one way to add value to the conversation.
From the moment you meet someone, be asking yourself: “How can I add value to this person?” What problem is your listener facing and how can you help them overcome it?

You want your listener to come away from the conversation feeling good about their investment of time and energy. What can you contribute to the discussion? If you’re not adding value, you’re just taking up space.

2) Understand how the world sees you.
Your personality already has certain patterns of communication that shape how people perceive you. Fascinating conversationalists don’t have to be sparkling and witty and charismatic. They have to understand how to build an authentic connection with their listener. You already have this ability. There’s a natural style of communication that defines how people perceive you, and when you apply that in conversation, it’s incredibly effective. My research shows that people are more likely to listen to you, remember you, buy from you and even fall in love with you when you apply your own natural style.

3) Know your “Anthem.”
Your “Anthem” identifies the perfect words to describe who you are, at your best. Your Anthem is the tagline for your personality. Once you know what makes you valuable to others, you’re more authentic and confident and more likely to make a positive impression.

4) Ask real questions.
When it comes to first impressions, your questions matter more than your answers. The goal is to get away from trite topics, and get on a roll with the other person in which you’re both effortlessly engaged in a subject.You don’t have to be witty or spontaneous to ask great questions. You do have to listen and be ready to ask real questions.

5) Consider what people will already be thinking and talking about.
It’s much easier to immediately connect with someone if you already know what they’re already pondering, struggling with or excited about. Before you go to your next conference, event, meeting, etc spend a moment to consider what will already be on everyone’s mind. How can you become part of their current mindset?

6) Commit to a strong start.
Sometimes, it feels like a big effort to start a conversation. That’s why people just keep scanning the room and don’t make eye contact. When introducing yourself, don’t give a half-hearted greeting and wait for the other person to do all the work. Remember: Every time you introduce yourself, you’re either adding value or taking up space. If you’re not going to commit to a strong start, it’s better to not introduce yourself in the first place. A weak start leads to a weak first impression.
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The first moments of an interaction offer your window of opportunity for connection. If you earn your listener’s interest during that brief time people will be more likely to engage further. If you fail to add some sort of value in that golden window, they’re less likely to listen to what you say, let alone remember you.

Those first defining moments of an interaction deserve a little focus and energy, don’t you think? Bring a sense of purpose to the conversation.

Ultimately, remember: The purpose of a conversation is not to kill time, but to grow a connection.

Take out your conversational watering can and grow more connections.
----- Sally Hogshead